r/BigMenLife

Im not trying to say that women have it better or that sexism doesn't exist or anything like that. All I'm saying is that the notion that being fat is easier for men is not the case, especially when it comes to dating. The plus sized woman is still seen as sexy and valid by many people. Yes they still get harassed by weirdos but they still have much more support than men get. If you're a fat man you are worthless. No one wants you. No one is trying to tell you that you're still sexy. Even other plus sized people see you as beneath contempt. Even if someone slips into my DMs it's because they think I'm a big ugly bastard. I have been told to my face that I need to accept that no one will love me until I lose weight. The only time I've ever seen a "sexy" fat guy is in a DXL ad.

I'm wondering at which weight (or belly size) did you all notice effects on your daily life such as mobility and accessibility of places. I feel like that effect if being bigger is always kind of downplayed.

🥰🥰🥳🥳 To all the Big Beautiful Large and Lovely Men Out Here Who are Working Hard, Putting in the Effort and Time, and Making it a Better Place for all of Us, CONGRATS, HIGH FIVES, KUDOS, YAHOO..!!!!! Most Importantly, THANK YOU..!!!! 💜💜💜💜💙💙💙💙

🏆🏆🥇 Size Does Matter. It just depends on how we can make it a benefit and advantage. 🎳🎳🏈🏀⚽️

🧸🧸 We are like Stuffed Animals. We are Large. Do You Know What This Means..???? We are able to provide Comfort, Protection, and STRENGTH..!!!! Like Pillows, we can be a safe place for someone to express and recover themselves. 🧸🧸🥳🥳

🥳🧸🏆 We are also like Tractors and Big Rigs. Sure, we are HUGE..!! We get the job done. Without a doubt big vehicles are amazing, JUST LIKE US..!!!! Through and True..!!!! 💙💙🚜🏎️

💜💜💜💜 Maintenance is IMPORTANT..!!! Make sure to take care of your Physical, Mental, and Emotional Well Being..!! 🚑🚑

🥰🥰🥳🥳 To all the Large Lovely Big and Beautiful Men Out Here, I Want to Give You a Handshake and a Big Bear Hug..!!!! 🧸🧸🚜🚜

I've never been around people who were nice about being big. I developed extreme social anxiety and agoraphobia as a teen due to severe bullying about my weight. I remember I was 108kg at 11 and 135kg and 5'7 at 13 and basically treated like a freak show. Even my brother would bully me with his friends in school. My parents and family were no better despite being partially responsible for my diet.

Is this a fetish thing? Because I don't want to be fat, specifically for health reasons (I feel like absolute shit). I was 182kg at 17 and had WLS a week before my 18th birthday**. I lost 110kg and felt amazing. Then I came out and turned to the bottle to cope with all the untapped trauma i'd kept bottled from years of living a lie. yadda yadda yadda, I've been 120kg for 2 years now and while I'm not giving up on weight loss or at least trying not to gain, I need to learn that I'm not worthless because I'm fat.

I like big guys but it is incomprehensible for me to believe I could be fat and have anyone want me. I do talk to people online sometimes but I'm just a fetish to them being fat and a trans man.

That's a lot of words when I could just say... Is this a gainer sub? I'm gonna be very disappointed if it is.

**I am now 29 and also have loose/saggy skin.

Thanks to that dude that continuously spams all the subs here with his AI gainer slop, we have a new rule: No AI slop.

Reddit is slowly being overtaken by this slop, and the buck stops here today in this sub with this new rule. Anyone posting AI slop, will result in an immediate ban. No questions, no warnings, just a permanent ban. We just won't tolerate that here. Most of these accounts that post the slop are just karma farming anyways.

Please flag AI content accordingly and the mods will remove the content and ban the account from the sub.

I have noticed a large amount of content recently that I would categorize as attempting to cater to those who have a fetish for large men. Now please don't get me wrong, I am not kink shaming in any way, however i don't feel this is the proper place for that style of content. There are plenty of subreddits which specialize in that kind of content. I think it goes against intended nature of this reddit.

To be more specific I am noticing posts of images which seem to be taken in a way so as to be considered fetish. Maybe I am reading too much into this but I think there should be an additional rule concerning this.

🩷🩷💜💜 To All the Large and Lovely Men Who are Involved in Service and Making it a Better World. KUDOS, HIGH FIVE, and THANK YOU VERY MUCH..!!!! 💙💙💙💙🥰🥰

😎😎 Big Means (Equals) BEAUTIFUL..!! Large Means Lovely. Size Does Matter, it’s just a decision on how to make it a benefit and advantage. Big Men contribute much more than size. 🥰🥰

🧸🧸🧸🧸 We are like Stuffed Teddy Bears. We provide comfort and cuddles. Plus, we are brilliant and phenomenal to look at. I doubt anybody out here will refuse handshakes and hugs. 🧸🧸

🥳🥳🥳🥳😊🚜🚜 We are also like Tractors and Big Rigs. We could survive all different environments and atmospheres. Our courage gives hope to those around us. We keep ourselves healthy to look good. 🚑🏎️🏎️🚜🚜💜💜💜💜

For context, I’m a 29 year old guy and I weigh 306lbs (formally stayed between 285-295). Today was the first day that I really noticed my belly and man boobs. I’ve been working on losing weight, but today I couldn’t help but enjoy seeing my belly through my shirt and just feeling it as I was moving around. Not sure if anybody else has had this experience. Now I’m torn between losing weight, maintaining, or possible even gaining a few more lbs. I’ve also started going shirtless more often, even just at home… all I can say is how proud I am to be a big guy!

I think this may be an interesting question depending on where everyone is from.

Any other men experienced getting shorter the heavier you've gotten? At one time in my teens I was around 5'9" - 5'10". Pretty average male height. I'm 5"6 - 5'7" ish now. Shorter than my brothers by far after we were all close in height.