I 21-F have been dating and talking to this guy 21-
M for a couple weeks now . If I’m being honest things move pretty quickly however, before the first time we had sex, we never talked about it at all. Which I kinda counted as a green flag because every person that I’ve talked to always asked me how many bodies I have or if I was a virgin or not. However, with him, it was different. We bonded instantly, and it was like I knew him for years he always made me feel comfortable around him. However, it feels like this one thing we can’t get right. We’ve had sex about five times. And every time it wasn’t really the best experience for me. The first time get to pass, of course because we didn’t know each other’s ins and outs and what each other liked. However, his stamina was very high, so just imagine how it felt to do about 30 different positions with no outcome. My body of course, reacted however I wasn’t really that turned on. He’s also not big on oral sex, which is something that’s important to me these last few years. I made a rule that if I don’t get it first, then we’re not having sex however, I didn’t do that with him. He said that it made him uncomfortable, so I just let him know that normally I wouldn’t have sex unless I get it however, if you’re not confident in your performance, then I just won’t do you as well . It took him a while, but he’s body reacted. But the next few times was just a pleasure party for him. Then when I talk to him the third time and I expressed that I don’t mind teaching him how to pleasure me, so we tried the oral thing for me and it was like teaching a two year-old how to wash dishes properly . It was to the point where I was annoyed and turned off. Then the time after that, it was just a quickie. And after that time, I wasn’t feeling well so I went to sleep early. I took NyQuil about an hour later. I woke up to him, kissing on me rubbing my back , the perfect start to a great sex experience , however, it was not that we only did one position which was back shots It was good however it was boring. He supposed to come back tonight. Honestly, I’m considering rejecting his sexual advances if he does make a move, however I don’t want him to feel insecure .
What can I say so that we can mutually agree to work on my sexual needs as well?
HELP PLEASE !!
I apologize in advance for any typos. I’m writing this after taking NyQuil and dozing off.