u/Ok-Peace-5918

AITAH for not being excited for a Mother’s Day gift

I 21 female have a two-year-old son with my 23 year-old baby father . We’ve been annoying each other for nine years , and have spent almost every major holiday together at least two times . About two years ago for Christmas I gifted my son’s dad with a shadowbox filled with baby pictures of my son , pregnancy test , our gender card , and hospital bands from my son was born . As you can tell, I am the type of person that saves the moment with everything I love gifting, people things that aren’t materialistic but priceless . I love to give people things that they can cherish , love and keep for a long time . Sometime last year, my son said, came clean and stated that the next time I get him something he doesn’t want anything “built” . Yes, the ungrateful bastard said “built” . I laughed it off, but honestly, I was hurt inside. I told him that I would never make him anything again . I was living with him last year and once I moved out, I took the shadowbox and replaced it with my son’s baby mittens, and pictures of all of us instead of just my son and his dad . On the top, I also included a picture of a baby angel symbolizing the miscarriage I had last year . For the past two weeks, my son that have been asking me what I want for Mother’s Day . I let him know that I wanted a ring and tennis bracelet set from Pandora that I’ve I’ve been wanting for about three years . And if he can’t get that, I wanted to get a huge blind box from Miniso . My son’s dad is a very materialistic person so I know if it wasn’t jewelry , shoes , or clothes than I knew it was money . My son said let me know that he needed to go to CVS to get a picture , which was my gift . He said that he got a picture from the best family day that we had and was going to go put it in a frame . He asked me to drop him off however I had to go get pictures myself and told him that he can go with me. He made excuses about going to go pick up the pictures. Honestly, I think that he got his other baby mom the same gift as me. Or he just didn’t get it at all. Not to sound ungrateful but “a picture” !!! like how hypocritical can he be? He’s not the sentimental giftgiving type. He’s always been the go pick out the ring that you want type . Only once in my life, he’s giving me a gift that he actually took the time to pick it out for me and surprise me with . Don’t get me wrong It would’ve been a sweet gesture however what he said to me last year is kind of sucking the fun out of receiving the picture frame. He also mentioned that next week when he get paid again, he’ll give me money so that I can make myself a scrapbook dedicated to my son . My birthday is also in May , and he stated that he’ll get me the ring and bracelet set that I wanted . I know everyone is like OK I’ll just have to be a little patient however, every time when it comes to me getting a gift or waiting to receive one something always comes up. For example, last year he took me to smoothie King for the first time , I love this so much that I wanted to make a tradition out of it. Every other week when he got paid when it was time for me to go something always came up. I know that bills and taken care of the kids are important however for him, I always made time or even Will give him my last to make sure that he ate. But he couldn’t spare $15 for me . I didn’t go until four months later.He also gave me $50 .

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u/Ok-Peace-5918 — 4 days ago
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I 21-F have been dating and talking to this guy 21-
M for a couple weeks now . If I’m being honest things move pretty quickly however, before the first time we had sex, we never talked about it at all. Which I kinda counted as a green flag because every person that I’ve talked to always asked me how many bodies I have or if I was a virgin or not. However, with him, it was different. We bonded instantly, and it was like I knew him for years he always made me feel comfortable around him. However, it feels like this one thing we can’t get right. We’ve had sex about five times. And every time it wasn’t really the best experience for me. The first time get to pass, of course because we didn’t know each other’s ins and outs and what each other liked. However, his stamina was very high, so just imagine how it felt to do about 30 different positions with no outcome. My body of course, reacted however I wasn’t really that turned on. He’s also not big on oral sex, which is something that’s important to me these last few years. I made a rule that if I don’t get it first, then we’re not having sex however, I didn’t do that with him. He said that it made him uncomfortable, so I just let him know that normally I wouldn’t have sex unless I get it however, if you’re not confident in your performance, then I just won’t do you as well . It took him a while, but he’s body reacted. But the next few times was just a pleasure party for him. Then when I talk to him the third time and I expressed that I don’t mind teaching him how to pleasure me, so we tried the oral thing for me and it was like teaching a two year-old how to wash dishes properly . It was to the point where I was annoyed and turned off. Then the time after that, it was just a quickie. And after that time, I wasn’t feeling well so I went to sleep early. I took NyQuil about an hour later. I woke up to him, kissing on me rubbing my back , the perfect start to a great sex experience , however, it was not that we only did one position which was back shots It was good however it was boring. He supposed to come back tonight. Honestly, I’m considering rejecting his sexual advances if he does make a move, however I don’t want him to feel insecure .

What can I say so that we can mutually agree to work on my sexual needs as well?
HELP PLEASE !!

I apologize in advance for any typos. I’m writing this after taking NyQuil and dozing off.

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u/Ok-Peace-5918 — 10 days ago