r/AskWomenOver20

The minute my husband leaves for the evening I somehow become convinced I’m starring in a true crime documentary. Every tiny sound outside becomes ‘the moment investigators later talked about.’

Meanwhile I’m wandering around the house holding a kitchen knife like I’m somehow fully qualified to defend the property despite having absolutely no training whatsoever.

Then the SECOND he gets home I’m magically back to being a rational adult again.

Okay so I’m exaggerating a little, but please tell me other women do stuff like this too!

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The situation is my boyfriend has a work trip/wedding abroad. He had originally invited me then trailed off, turns out he said he can't afford to bring me along. He did not ask if I could contribute to make the trip happen so we can go together. I just suddenly stopped hearing about any of the planning, until he gleeful told me he already booked his flight. His work engagement will be for around 2-3 days total. He then said he booked himself a flight to another country he has wanted to visit and is going on holiday for a week there alone. Am I overreacting to be hurt by this? I feel like he engineered this to go on holiday alone, he didn't even offer to have me join or catch up with him. When I brought it up he got angry and scoffed saying I could join if I wanted and that it didn't even cross his mind to try to make it work for us to go on vacation.

EDIT: I also told him if he goes on this trip alone, then I should be able to take a trip by myself. He immediately got upset and said if I do that I would be trying to "get even" and that
"fine youre single then if you go alone".