u/zombiefatcher

Hey all

This is more of a rant, but I need some advice or success stories, I dont know anymore. My wife and I have been trying to conceive now for 7 months. In Feb we had a MC at 6 weeks which turned out to be a blighted ovum. She had a RPL workup done and everything is normal. Her OB told us everything seems to be working, but it's just bad biological luck. We processed the MC, took a while and started trying again. We are out of the running this month, but ANOTHER woman at my wife's job announced she is pregnant which now makes 4 total. It's destroying my wife - on top of that, her sister and cousin both have babies, and our close friends have 2 young kids. We are starting to avoid gatherings, muting group chats with the family because it's just too hard to see everyone sending baby pics, doing things with the kids etc.

How do we get through this? I'm trying so hard to stay optimistic, but it's exhausting. My wife also works with kids as a BCBA, so she is in the thick of it every day. I honestly don't know what else to do - we take perelel supplement packs, we have a kegg, we track ovulation, time sex, use pre-seed. I did an at home Yo! sperm analysis and everything seemed normal? My urologist told me I should wait until 1 year to do anything.

How do you handle watching other people get pregnant, and avoiding becoming depressed over it. Obviously, we are happy for our friends and family who have kids - we aren't outwardly bitter or anything, but it does become hard seeing announcement after announcement and we are just stuck in limbo. We try our best to stay busy, keep things planned, etc but at the end of the day - we know the reality of our situation, and it sucks.

Any input would be amazing

Thanks