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Father, 79 has ability to take care of himself but leaves it to my mom, 80 to clean and feed him. She also has health problems and caretaking has taken its toll on her. He is more incapable the more he drinks. The alcohol also makes dealing with his autoimmune disease more difficult. He wears diapers but not as indicated, leaving unsanitary messes in their home.

So I am wondering, what are good next steps when they have exhausted home nurse insurance benefit and paid caretakers say they cannot clean or help my mother when there is unsanitary conditions.

They both want to stay at home. Help.