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​I had a very difficult relationship with my sibling. They mistreated me many times. On the last day we spoke, I sent them a message of forgiveness. I made it clear that I was doing this for my own healing and theirs, but without the desire to be in contact again.

​At first, I wasn’t sure if my forgiveness was real, so I prayed to the Lord. He helped me completely let go of the bitterness I felt. I was even able to pray for them to find peace and the path to Christ. Today, I was remembering all the painful things they did to me, and to my great surprise, I felt no resentment at all. I have stayed firm in my decision not to have contact with them. Which is marvelous because I used to confuse forgiveness with reconciliation.

​God is great. If you are struggling, take it to Him. He knows when your heart is pure and when you are asking to be relieved of a heavy burden. He does wonderful things. I feel so much lighter after praying for them yesterday, even talking about them now, I feel no animosity. I hope this post can help those who are struggling with forgiveness.

​God bless you. Amen.

​My therapist told me to set boundaries with my parents, and I find it very stressful.

​My parents are very involved in my life. I am in my late twenties so it's about time they see me as an adult. I asked my therapist if I should stop talking to them completely, but she said no. She thinks it is better to set limits instead. Which I agree with because I still love them.

​We talked specifically about the messages my mother sends me. My therapist told me to ignore them for at least one day before answering. I find this... very difficult.

​here's today’s messages:

​9:09 AM: "Are you awake?"

​11:57 AM: "Are you sleeping?"

​1:41 PM: "Are you okay?"

​1:47 PM: "Were you able to pick up your medicine?"

​1:50 PM: She called to ask if I was fine. I just replied, "I am busy."

​I find it incredibly hard to ignore these texts and calls. It feels very invasive, almost like harassment. Honestly, I feel like I can't breathe. My therapist told me that I am not a pet meant to keep them entertained. I don't know what to do without hurting them and myself in the process.

​I live in a small village where the only church (evangelical) didn't accept me at first. After some talks with the pastor, he told me I was welcome, but that we should examine my views on LGBTQ+ people.

I don't believe it’s a sin, and I especially don't see what's wrong with being asexual. For a long time, I thought what I was going through was a sin, but I am sure that Jesus loves me as I am. I don't want to go back into the closet to appease people who see my sexual orientation as sinful.

I mean, I don't get it, what's wrong with not wanting sex?