The moments you realize you can actually be annoyed at people
There are some cases where I am not all sunshine and rainbows and love everyone around me ENFJ, but a pissed off teenager even though the people I am dealing with are not essentially bad. One of those cases is when people rush me into doing something.
Today, I was giving a friend instructions on what to do in a long message. I wrote things in a structure and gave solutions to possible mishaps, so that she doesn't have to contact me and ask every time she needs, and instead go back to this message whenever she wants. She says "Wow, long message :d I am not retarded" and then asks a question about something which I exactly wrote. When I say "I told you, let me find it", she bombs me with "When? Where is it? Can you send it to me? Let's do it and move on" implying I am the one causing things to slow down. We can move on if you can just listen and move step by step.
I dunno if this is an ENFJ thing or something I have to work in therapy but I got angry with her really, and it happens generally with people who cannot maintain their attention and want quick answers, and cannot contain themselves and cannot think maybe they are the ones causing the communication to not go smoothly.
Can you relate?
And are there any other situations like this where you cannot control your emotional reaction?
P.S. Ofc I controlled my reaction towards her but that was an unnecessary overexplanation, too, which focuses on I am not implying that she is anything bad, and I just wanted to make every info available for her. Then, she told me she loses the focus when the text is long... Even though there is no real focus, and it is just a step by step plan... But yeah.
Thank you ❤️