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I shouldve put this post here orginally but after waking up at 1AM replaying this in my head and listening to everyones stories here even in the past 7 days, i think this is the place to talk about this absolute POOP show this new boss has made a once peaceful work enviorment (ill try not to curse since every other place Ive tried to post this has had SUCH an issue with that) I work in corporate and ive been at this job for about 2 years and honestly when i first started it I loved it. Im a manager and my team was SO chill and really valued and respected my thoughts and creative and i felt like it was really a place that i could stay and grow with the team considering multiple people on my team had been there for YEARS. i had been in good/honestly great standing with my boss, my coworkers, even the head of the company and everyone was so excited about my fresh ideas that seemed to be bringing the company some direction. ALL OF A SUDDEN, a new manager gets added to our team (Lets call her a**hole, no just kidding, lets call her Jennifer) so Jennifer gets here and I can see management is just CHARMED by her but IMMEDIATELY all i hear is "word salad word salad chat gpt" (keep in mind, im a young black woman in corporate but ive been doing what i do since i started my own business in highschool, went to college, freelanced, and then started getting signed on for long term roles at companies in management positions and this is an older white woman who feels like shes just THE BEST EVER because shes old and white...it matters) anyways, she literally comes in and first tries to seem like "she wants to work closely with me" and really "learn the ropes of the company" and i QUICKLY realized her "amazingly wonderful idea" was to replace me and my coworker with agencies... And as im showing her ALL the projects i had in the works she essentially halts ALL of them to start pushing her ideas and the manager above me just LETS IT HAPPEN. Her ideas are so clearly half baked, CHATGPT BULLCRAP with no clear direction but again they are just so enamored by her "charm" which at this point had ran out in the first week to me.

Shes only been here for 60 days and has already caused so much haywire and is ADMIMENT that its because of "me and my attitude" and that ive "lost my spark and engagement" because ANYTIME IVE BROUGHT UP ANYTHING THAT OTHERS HAVE LIKED she'll go to the boss above me and rip it apart and make them change their mind ITS CRAZY! When she first got there and i saw she was making an already inefficient process EVEN WORSE i tried to work even harder to make something everybody liked, creating a whole new strategy, explaining my reasoning, like FULLY THOUGHT OUT ready to be started. The IMMEDIATE hour after my meeting she schedules a meeting the next day for HER strategy she had been working on so tirelessly (WHY EVEN HAVE ME PRESENT THEN?!?!) that ended up being, AGAIN, chat gpt BS that I had to completely rework even though at first i was meant to "follow it exactly" but when i showed them what that actually looked like and it FAILED all of a sudden it was a "loose framework that I ws supposed to take creative iniative on". Worst part is she had me ON CALL with these agencies she was trying to replace me with AND EVERY SINGLE ONE JUST SAID THE SAME THING THAT I SAID (which i PROMISE im not saying for no reason, everything boiled to a head this week).

She said she was looking for agencies because "it must be so hard for me to do such a big role by myself and she wants to get me the help i need so i dont feel overwhelmed" when ive NEVER once showed or expressed that...i asked her for ONE thing ONCE when she ASKED WHAT I NEEDED and that was just to optimize our approvals...which she claims "she did so what else has she not done because she feels like now im telling her she cant do her job".

So she recently launches this plan to reorder the group, essentially removing the manager who actually used to be helpful at one point but quickly became a yes man to Jennifer within 60 freaking days and wanted to schedule PERSONAL hour+ long meetings with me and my coworker 1:1, TWICE A WEEK. (So i already KNOW its about to be some BS.) And she kept talking about a "need to be respectful" and how "respect is her first priority" and if "anyone feels disrespected they should be able to let her know", like ummm okay?

So i get inro this meeting with her and shes like "so i looked at your original job description and i noticed there was ALOT going on, tell me about what youre wanting to do and if the new adjusted role ive created for you is better" and "wanted to clear the air about tension she felt between us because she noticed that i lost my spark and drive" so im honestly as professionally as i can telling her "honestly since youve gotten here, goal posts have changed, i dont have an issue with my job, you just assumed i was struggling when there was no reason to think that and my specific requests were pushed to the wayside and ive been working to complete requests that were half baked, and as others have liked the work, youve switched from liking it one day to hating it the next" all in the name of "transparency" right? Because i noticed age AND being the only BW on the team is a REAL factor in her narritive. Throughout the WHOLE TIME shes constantly switching her thoughts of me first im "not doing enough, all of my work has been bad" then its "my work has been amazing she just wants to hone it in" then its "ive not been putting enough personality into the work" and then its "too much personality you need to hone it in" .Then she had the AUDACITY to tell me "im not trying hard enough to advocate for myself and my projects and that "im a manager and she doesnt want to micromanage me and shouldnt have to tell me to take initiative" but in the next breath says "im pushing back on her too much and shes been doing this for many years and i should give her that, and my commentary back to her has been disrespectful". MIND YOU she even ADMITTED shees not familiar with the wheelhouse of work i do AT ALL.....

Anyways i could go on and on about her inconsistent flip flopping but once i realized she was going to be a problem. I started recording meetings where she pulled me alone/and me with my coworkers and keeping a paper trail of evidence which im glad i did because in the middle of this CRAZY ramble and back and forth she straight up LIES and says i didnt send her anything for almost 4 WEEKS after she requested it (I HAVE NEVER HAD MORE THAN A 72 HOUR TURN AROUND ON PROJECT FOR ANYONE) I checked her IN THAT MOMENT and said "um are you sure youre talking about me/the right project because ive never taken 3 qeeks to return anything to you (I MEAN THE LITERAL LONGEST IVE taken is 5 business days to produce almost a calendar QUARTER of work) she quickly tried to dismiss it and told me i need to be accountable.

Im thinking of leaving and have been quietly applying to new jobs, optimizing my linkedin and resume and counting down the days till i can let it be known. I dont know if i have enough to take to HR or if i even should. But i feel like its a matter of time before the microaggressive comments become full blown discrimination, either about my age or race. Idk its just been SO frustrating and im so sick of bringing this energy home to my spouse. But im gonna keep documenting (and i do have someone on the inside thats on my side and is also seeing first hand this womans INSANE "management")