Tinder boy
need real advice and I really want help understanding what’s going on with me… judge me if you want, because even I don’t even understand it myself!
Everything started some time after I found out I was cheated on by my ex. It was a really ugly situation that left me quite traumatized, so in order to distract myself, I created a Tinder profile… yes, the truth is I needed attention and to feel like someone looked at me with desire. I couldn’t stand the pain of being deceived and replaced.
So yeah, I created that damn Tinder haha. I didn’t talk to many people—in fact, my profile didn’t even have real pictures, it was purely AI 😅😅 However, a very unexpected match showed up! That match didn’t take long to text me. It took a few days until we exchanged phone numbers and then (a few more days later) social media. I should say it took 2 weeks for our first date to happen.
That first date really impressed me because this Tinder boy was extremely polite, easygoing, respectful… basically everything Tinder usually doesn’t have 😅🤣 Then we kept talking, always staying grounded and taking things slowly, especially because he also went through a not-so-good breakup (he was cheated on too). More and more, our conversations started to make sense, and the dates too! By the third date we kissed, and on the fourth, we ended up in bed… okay, everything more than wonderful! Incredible chemistry, incredible moments together, and there is really good communication… There is care, concern… honestly, our vibe is anything but “I’m just here to have sex,” even though there is a lot of desire 🤣
However, I’m starting to get worried… am I doing the right thing? I mean, I get very attached, I’m quite jealous, and I have the bad habit of creating a lot of expectations and goals all at once, but I don’t want to show that. Especially because we have quite different lives and live almost half an hour away from each other. We are the same age, 27/28, and from what I understand, he knows well what he wants in life, but I still haven’t had the courage to ask what his more objective intentions are with me… out of fear!
Should I do it? Or simply continue enjoying the good thing we have right now? Am I confusing feelings because I met him at a vulnerable moment or is this person really affecting me? Should I stop here or continue with this good thing that came almost like a bandage for my wound?