I feel like my husband doesn't listen to anything i say
Im venting about this here instead of a more general relationship subreddit because I specifically want feedback from other military spouses.
My husband is almost 5 years younger than me so there is a maturity gap but hes over 25 and I feel like he should be wiser than he currently is. I'm constantly repeating information to him and it really feels like everything I say goes in one ear and out the other. Or like he doesn't think what im saying is important enough to remember.
He's at a shore command right now, most days hes at work for a few hours. Very rarely is his job physically or mentally demanding. I'm trying to rationalize any reason for him to not be able to retain information but at the end of the day I just feel like there's either some deep rooted misogyny thats been instilled in him to not truly respect women or theres just a huge intelligence gap between us which is honestly depressing and scares me to think that could be the reason our marriage doesn't last.
I know its pretty common for women to feel like men don't listen but at what point do I need to decide that this just isn't going to be sustainable for me?