I currently live near North Hollywood station but I work at Encino. My lease ends in 6 months and I would like to move to a more walkable/bus accessible area near a hospital (I’m a nurse). So I’m looking for a hospital and apartment near a metro station. Thank you!
My dad always had anger management issues. Very short fuse. Reactive to everything. You can accidentally brush his arm and he’ll blow up. He migrated to the US when I was 5. I migrated to the US when I was 17 and lived with him until I was 21. I was always walking on eggshells. Always said yes or else he’ll blow up. He’s hit me multiple times because I spilled water or he didn’t like what I said. He kicked me out of the house because he didn’t want me to have a bf at 21. I studied abroad at 25 and only got back now that I’m 32.
To the surprise of no one, I struggled with my mental health too. But I sought professional help because I didn’t want to be like him. I’m in a great place mentally now. I went back to the US and my dad insisted I get an apartment near him. So I did. He goes to my apartment EVERY SINGLE DAY. And he also wants me to go to his place everyday for dinner. I’m a nurse with 2 jobs. I want to rest after a long day at work. Our usual routine is I work 7am-7:30pm. I get to his place at 8pm. I get home 10pm. I go to bed at 11. Wake up at 5:30am. After work I just want to shower then sleep. But no. He won’t let me. All my days off we HAVE to be together. I only get a couple hours for myself to do chores and errands. And I pay for everything because he said he has no money. He wants a fancy sushi restaurant? Fine, my treat. I never say no. He “borrows” money and I always give even though he’s never paid me back.
I had a really rough work week and my apartment was looking bad so I kindly told him I wanted to stay at home. He blew up. Like a complete mental breakdown. Yelling and screaming and said all the curse words known to man. I’m exhausted. I don’t want to leave him behind because I’m all he’s got. I want him to be a part of my life, but I dealt with this bs when I was younger and I don’t want to deal with this bs again. How can I keep my relationship with my dad without compromising my own mental health?