CPS showed up to my house after i reported inappropriate behavior between my daughter and another student to the school, despite me telling the school i didnt want to escalate this - is this normal protocol? can use some advice
a few days ago, my daughter (4yo) told me about how her friend (another girl) touched her in her private parts between her legs in the bathroom at school (pre-k 3). without making a huge deal about it to scare her, my wife immediately reminded her about privacy, saying no, no touching private parts, etc......we didnt want it to escalate into possible trauma if we can handle it in a more calm manner. we felt we delivered the message clearly and hopefully landed well.
the next day, my wife immediately reported this to the director of the school. her biggest request was NOT to talk to my daughter about it directly. we didnt want to escalate it or scare her, that they should do a broader class education about it, they talk to the parents of the other girl, as well as increasing their attention on the kids....especially in the bathroom.
today, CPS showed up at my door because of an "anonymous report" and asking to talk to me / my wife, and my daughter about the incident. we reminded her that WE made the initial report to the school, and then declined any investigation because we absolutely didnt want anyone talking to my daughter about this. She left. there's only 3 people that could possibly know about this: us, the school, the other parents (if they even found out)......so its really not that anonymous
now my wife is spiraling, concerned that things are going to escalate and possibly get, that this will turn out bad for my daughter in the sense of being "marked", and now we have a folder at CPS with our name on it
i feel like this is routine, and that the school was the one that reported this. My wife will talk to the director tomorrow about this.
does anyone have any insight from the school side or the CPS side as to what possibly is going on behind the scenes, and what i could be possibly looking at having to deal with? if anything. we dont want to report anyone or cause a big deal. we want the school to know so they can make changes, and we want the other kids parents to know.....thats all.