Am I valid in identifying as nonbinary?
I’m afab & I’ve been on the dating apps lately & a lot of guys ask if I’m trans. I always thought I was secure in my gender & like being nonbinary but having so many guys ask me that makes me feel negatively. Whenever I ask why they ask they rarely give me an answer, which makes me think it’s because they think I look like a man(I think specifically bc it’s dating apps this is the case. Bc they’re all tryna fuck tbh & they wanna know what’s in my pants w/o being as blunt or finding out in person)(Alternatively they could be wanting to fuck a trans girl in which case I just wouldn’t be their type at all I guess?). I don’t know if having these negative feelings invalidates me identifying as nonbinary though. I feel like being nonbinary I would care less about being asked this for some reason lol. Being trans isn’t a bad thing either but I don’t identify that way as I don’t really feel out of line with my body, more so just the social construct of gender? But being asked so often if I’m trans makes me feel like clockable? For lack of a better word. Being raised socially as a girl too there’s like this pressure to perform a certain way & I don’t know if that’s all I’m feeling when I feel this way. But yeah anyway if you couldn’t tell I’m kinda a chronic over thinker & I have waaay too much time on my hands today so, am I just being sensitive? Is it valid for me to identify as nonbinary? What are your thoughts?