u/unsure232

I was the ultimate doormat in my past relationships. Men treated me poorly. I ignored it and poured more into them.

I wanted to win them over.

Looking back, I realize I didn't love myself - I poured my love and care into them instead..

The men I chose to date loved fantasy women (women they never met) and had porn addictions. I feel like I dodged bullets.

I'm now at a point where I don't care about dating.

If I do find someone, they will need to be on the same wavelength as me AND love and respect me as much as I love and respect myself now.

For these simple standards alone, I have doubts it will ever happen.

But until then, I am a happy soloist. I love peace and quiet.

I am in my late-30s and I bought a set of pajamas that would match a young teenager.

It's adorably cute.

If I was in a relationship, based on past experiences, I know my partner would be unhappy if they saw me wear them. There is nothing sexy about these pajamas LOL. Short sleeves + long matching pajama pants.

But I'm not in a relationship...

I'm single.

I am free ❤️

After I purchased the pajamas, I felt a huge wave of freedom. I would have never purchased these pajamas if I was in a relationship. The guilt and judgement from a partner would have made me not by buy them.

I realized I can be myself without feeling bad about it. This is a byproduct of being single. It's amazing.

I'm already on the lookout for my 2nd set of Sanrio character pajamas 👍

Update: I bought 3 sets of Sanrio pajamas 😆