u/unhappy_fishes

I was married and doing well financially, raising my daughter and planning for the future, planning trips and whatnot. I got sick in 2023 and stayed sick/disabled. The husband became really resentful at having to take on cleaning the house alone and cooking and taking care of our daughter while I was mostly stuck in bed. So he finally got fed up and divorced me and took our daughter from me. I didn’t have enough money to go to court and can barely take care of myself anyway. I have to pay a cleaning service to clean my house because I can’t do it, I’m so broke and in debt. On top of that I still feel like shit most of the time. I’m weak and skinny and wasting away and nobody cares.

I’ve been crying for two days now because he didn’t even tell me they were going to meet her new teachers at school next week. He didn’t bother to tell me because he doesn’t want me to exist. He wants to just take her a get a new wife that will be useful and make a new family without the broken one.

I have friends and loved ones and I’m not completely alone, but it isn’t enough. I wanted a family and was kicked out of the one I created because I wasn’t good enough.

I’ve been in a lot of pain for a while, mostly on one side of my pelvis. I have suspected endo and get a lot of ovarian cysts and have had ruptured cysts so I figured it was just that again but I got an ultrasound recently and they said I have a fibroid in the area where my pain is. She wasn’t particularly worried and said its normal and to try the anti-inflammatory diet for my pain.

I’m only getting worried now because the pain is very sharp in one spot and achey everywhere else, including lower back. I’ve also been much more tired and out of breath than normal, which could be anything. I haven’t had blood work done in a few months and everything was normal last time.

I’m not freaking out that I might have cancer or anything, just a bit baffled at the female doctors telling me this amount of pain is just fine and normal or even my own fault (I’m relatively healthy weight so it wasn’t like a prejuidiced comment)

At what point do doctors typically decide a further examination is needed?