u/uhhnnn

Hey y’all. I hate coming here for marital advice, but I’m hitting a point of frustration and my next therapy session is still a few days out. My wife and I have found a stable way to navigate my leaving the org, with sort of a “agree to disagree” agreement. I won’t speak about the issues I find with the org if she doesn’t witness to me.

Recently though, my wife has started to send me screenshots from WT articles or daily texts. I don’t respond as I want to hold up my end of the deal, but I want to say something. Unfortunately I don’t know how to navigate it.

The religion brings her a sense of structure and peace, so I don’t want to make her feel like she has to walk on eggshells to balance her relationship with me and her source of hope. I have no intentions of giving her ultimatums, but I need to establish this boundary.

Hey all. I wanted to post a bit of my background in hopes I find folks with similar experiences. I recently became POMO and have begun to deconstruct with a therapist. Through this deconstruction, I have finally accepted that I am gay. The problem? I am married to a PIMI woman. Besides my recent exit from the org, our marriage has been amazing. I am also out to her as bi, which she accepted fully as she is also bi.

This is where I’m beginning to feel lost and confused. She has goals that she wants to attain that she never can now that I’m not a jw, and I have so many issues with the org that it’s hard to watch her continue to submit to their teachings, even after everything I’ve shared with her. On the other hand, she’s my best friend in every aspect, and I can’t imagine not having her in my life in some capacity.

I just want us to be happy, but I feel like there is no path forward currently that will lead to both of us being truly happy, sustainable marriage. She’s been very hesitant to couples therapy the few times I’ve mentioned it, so I’m not sure what else to do.

I’ve checked out a few resources such as Husbands Out to Wives and Gamma, but all of their meet ups fall on times that my wife and I are both home (non-meeting nights), so I haven’t been able to access them.

Has anyone gone through (or currently going through) something similar? Are you still married to your spouse in a happy, sustainable marriage? Or does it inevitably end, either amicably or not?