MIL keeps crossing lines and it’s affecting my marriage
My MIL constantly oversteps and it’s wearing me down. When she’s around, our whole routine gets thrown off. She comments on how we run the house, questions decisions my spouse and I already agreed on, and steps in like she has equal authority. It leaves me feeling like the outsider in my own home. My spouse freezes when she does this, so I’m the one absorbing the chaos and frustration. It’s starting to create real tension between us. How do you set boundaries that actually stick without blowing up the family?
(She lives with us and kicking her out is not an option)
short example:
Today I was feeding my son and told her, “It’s okay, I’ve got it.” She still hovered, tried to take the spoon, and kept offering to “help” every two minutes. When I didn’t accept her help, she got visibly upset, walked away, then came right back to try again. This happens every time she’s here, she ignores boundaries and then acts offended when I hold them.
I don’t want her help but she doesn’t listen