My husband relapsed again...
My husband developed a problem with synthetic gas station tablets after being clean for over 5 years. He struggled with it on and off for a year until it came to a head in December and I caught him in a ton of lies. He went to detox and then did IOP but didn't stay up with his group after he graduated the program. He was doing well until a week and a half ago when he randomly decided to use again. His mental illness had him in a bad headspace but instead of reaching out for help he went straight to drugs. This led to lots of lying, deflection, gaslighting, and finally me finding out. At first I was ready and willing to jump in and support through detox. I asked if he was truly ready and of course he said yes. But instead of being actually ready, he stole my credit card and bought a bunch more. I found out this morning and was so angry. Not about the relapse but the lying. It's his go to for anything and he is good at it. He said he was going to leave and I was done. Said whatever he wants to do. But over the day he changed his mind. We talked and he is promising he'll do better. I don't know how to trust and believe him. He is my best friend and a good father and I am losing him to this. I told him my boundaries about lying and he agreed. How do you get through something like this?