u/tomtinkertoy

▲ 307 r/Divorce

I fell wholeheartedly in love with my wife in 1984. We married in 1987. Raised 3 sons into self supporting adults each building on a family of their own. In 2001 we had a rough patch when she had an online relationship. We decided to stick it out for the boys. But I don’t think we ever really recovered this. She has slowly shut me out of anything and all effection over the years. I am now 60 and we just occupy the same house. From the outside looking in it probably isn’t noticeable. But finally hit me Sunday we were going to the lake to day camp with the kids and grands. I had to take a call to support a coworker while I loaded the car. In that distraction, I forgot to load lawn chairs. I realized this about 3 blocks from home and had to go back. This infuriated her. She called me a few names and complained that I was on the phone. I got the chairs and while driving to the lake she criticized my shirt, and said my hair looks stupid under my hat. Which I find funny. She is the only person to cut my hair since 1984.. But later in the day it just hit me like a ton of bricks that I don’t want to continue this way of living. I still love her and will forever, but it is obvious she doesn’t love me, and hasn’t for years.

It’s completely comical that I have stayed here. I am such a damn fool.

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u/tomtinkertoy — 9 days ago

Planning a retirement gig. After researching a bit, I want to ask the experts. I have a small hobby farm, we plan to retire on. I have a lot of trees I want to remove, a pond to dig, a decorative landscape rock water garden in the front area. But that is all personal work. I kinda think a retirement gig or building food plots, new yard preps,driveway cleanups, etc. I don’t have a desire to mulch. I will want a good Harley rake, a brush cutter that will mostly double as a hog. And some sort of tree puller. I have a worn out 24v 1ton, and a church going 3/4 ton. So neither is in the plan at the moment. I will rob the dump bed off my 1ton and get a used 4500/5500. I know commercial license will probably be needed, which I can get. I don’t really want to go commercial insurance because it’s a side gig and I will mostly be using these things for my retirement piece of mind. Currently looking at a $52k 2019 >1000hr Tak TL12. Please repair anything in my plan. Would I be better off buying a new 75hp machine? What attachment am I missing? I also want a bucket and a toothed bucket. Thanks for your reply’s.

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u/tomtinkertoy — 14 days ago