I got remarried yesterday (great success)
41m with 3 kids from my ex wife. Since the divorce, I worked on myself. Starting with my mental health. It ended with me getting formal diagnosis for ASD, ADHD, and MDD.
I never expected to remarry. This is my 3rd marraige. I got married right out of high school because of my strict religious parents. After 6 we divorced (no kids) and I rushed into dating. Met someone, had great physical chemistry and we got married after a few months. Wild and dumb. We have 3 kids together. Between 5 and 11 years old.
A few years ago after I came home from work. My ex wife told me she wanted a separation. Which turned into a divorce. I was destroyed by it, like so many of you have felt. We hadnt been fighting. I was so blinded by my tunnel vision that I missed the signs. But truthfully. I was relieved too. I had fallen out of love with her when my second child was born. Her family moved in and we lost our privacy which we never got back.
We had a friendly divorce. Agreed to 7 days on 7 days off with the kids and no child support. I really lucked out and I know it. Since then, we have had a few disagreements. But overall its great.
It was the hardest time in my life still. I ended up sleeping in my kids room for a week, then I was able to move into a small rv on some property. It was so hard going from a nice house on land with a hot shower to an rv and a garden hose. I wanted to leave the world so many times. I cried myself to sleep so many times. But I made it out alive.
I reached out to my high school best friend who was a woman and who I wasnt allowed to talk to by my ex wife.
She happened to be back in town too after a breakup. We talked for over a month before agreeing to meet in person. Then after that we slowly started to date. After a few months, she met my ex wife (theyre friends now too). 6 months she met my kids and they love her.
We dated for over 2 years, before moving in together. After 2 months of living together, I proposed to her, where we had our first date, which was a local park. Then yesterday we surprised everyone and got married at the court house.
It just feels so surreal.
I once again have a house on land
I became a home inspector and opened my own company.
And my wife is literally my high school crush. Went from friend zone to husband. Just took a couple decades. 😂🤣
THERE IS HOPE IF YOU HEAL!