u/throwaway198800

did i (27 f) say something that could imply i was thinking he (27m) was having doubts on me, which made him think of those thoughts and was i to blame for every other month make him feel like he doubts me?

(tldr at the end)
Hi all,
Just ended a 4+ years relationship.. I wanna know if what i said instigated what he claims i did.

I think its fair for the chat to speak for itself, i dont wanna misrepresent..

i understand if this is too much, im hoping theres enough people who maybe will help me understand

This is monday's conv, when it all happened.

https://drive.google.com/file/d/19-K81oja6edb2wPiWg6OlwM-w824zMP2/view?usp=sharing

This is his explanation 4 days later...

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1tdn7HrfjBAk1esFzX_z03zlyh87KpmHA/view?usp=sharing

(extra) this is tuesday (1 day after): if u guys wanna see that i tried to talk about it,, but needed a bit of time to collect myself
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1hL2IBkouZ_KneZG1qm1WTxX0xQcxh0PB/view?usp=sharing

Adding the "ex" at the beginning of everytime ive written bf, is killing me...

TLDR: My ex-boyfriend claims i put thoughts into his head about thinking of me and.. an affair with the servant. says he didnt believe i did it, just that he had them bec i started to explain that im dont like the concept of it but cant stop my parents from it. says i am no longer giving him peace or making him feel secure, and that he cant be this man constantly reassuring me and keeping his own thoughts at bay.

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u/throwaway198800 — 22 hours ago

wdid I (27F) say sth which can imply I was reacting like he (27M) might be doubting me which, made him think about it?

(tldr at the end)
Hi all,
Just ended a 4+ years relationship.. I wanna know if what i said instigated what he claims i did.

I think its fair for the chat to speak for itself, i dont wanna misrepresent..

i understand if this is too much, im hoping theres enough people who maybe will help me understand

This is monday's conv, when it all happened.

https://drive.google.com/file/d/19-K81oja6edb2wPiWg6OlwM-w824zMP2/view?usp=sharing

This is his explanation 4 days later...

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1tdn7HrfjBAk1esFzX_z03zlyh87KpmHA/view?usp=sharing

(extra) this is tuesday (1 day after): if u guys wanna see that i tried to talk about it,, but needed a bit of time to collect myself
https://drive.google.com/file/d/1hL2IBkouZ_KneZG1qm1WTxX0xQcxh0PB/view?usp=sharing

Adding the "ex" at the beginning of everytime ive written bf, is killing me...

TLDR: My ex-boyfriend claims i put thoughts into his head about thinking of me and.. an affair with the servant. says he didnt believe i did it, just that he had them bec i started to explain that im dont like the concept of it but cant stop my parents from it. says i am no longer giving him peace or making him feel secure, and that he cant be this man constantly reassuring me and keeping his own thoughts at bay.

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u/throwaway198800 — 22 hours ago