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I’ve been going crazy trying to find a particular kind of dress. I know what I like, and for myself, I don’t like most wedding dresses at all. I wanted something with long sleeves and NOT backless. I’m having a city hall microwedding so I wanted something sleek and low-profile and chic. Another Redditor in a different subreddit linked me to a designer in Edinburgh and I loved the dress so much that I flew to Edinburgh to visit her studio! (we’ve also always wanted to go and really needed a vacation so, no pressure if I didnt like the dress, except that it means more wedding dress shopping which I truly hate). Anyway I finally tried on The Dress and I loved it but now I’m anxious about committing and I wanted some feedback! I lost a lot of weight last year and have some body dysmorphia. I’m also bad at taking photos of myself. (I will have a professional photographer.)

In some of these photos, where my hair is up and the lighting is bad and I’m taking my own picture, I’m not so sure. When my hair is down and you can see my big earrings, I love it and it feels like I’ve found my look. These are sample sizes I’m trying on (some are a little saggy/stretched out since they’ve been tried on a million times). Mine would be custom made to measure. The length would be shorter, just reaching the ground with no train. The sleeves will be a bit shorter so you can see my hands. I’m asking her to take the waist in about one inch, I tried on a different size that had that waist measurement and it felt a bit more right. I also hate the seamless bra I’m wearing under this and would switch to something that is a lil perkier because the dress is fully lined and shows much less underneath than I was worried about! The whole thing is bias cut 100% silk satin.

Okay that’s a novel, I’m just nervous about committing! Is it just nerves? how would you style it? if you love it, pls hype me up.

I’ve been going crazy trying to find a particular kind of dress. I know what I like, and for myself, I don’t like most wedding dresses at all. I wanted something with long sleeves and NOT backless. I’m having a city hall microwedding so I wanted something sleek and low-profile and chic. Another Redditor in a different subreddit linked me to a designer in Edinburgh and I loved the dress so much that I flew to Edinburgh to visit her studio! (we’ve also always wanted to go and really needed a vacation so, no pressure if I didnt like the dress, except that it means more wedding dress shopping which I truly hate). Anyway I finally tried on The Dress and I loved it but now I’m anxious about committing and I wanted some feedback! I lost a lot of weight last year and have some body dysmorphia. I’m also bad at taking photos of myself. (I will have a professional photographer.)

In some of these photos, where my hair is up and the lighting is bad and I’m taking my own picture, I’m not so sure. When my hair is down and you can see my big earrings, I love it and it feels like I’ve found my look. These are sample sizes I’m trying on (some are a little saggy/stretched out since they’ve been tried on a million times). Mine would be custom made to measure. The length would be shorter, just reaching the ground with no train. The sleeves will be a bit shorter so you can see my hands. I’m asking her to take the waist in about one inch, I tried on a different size that had that waist measurement and it felt a bit more right. I also hate the seamless bra I’m wearing under this and would switch to something that is a lil perkier because the dress is fully lined and shows much less underneath than I was worried about! The whole thing is bias cut 100% silk satin.

if I summarize what I love:

- I love the fabric, and that it’s fully lined and has lots of beautiful movement from the bias cut

- I love that it has sleeves and a back and a slim profile, I feel really comfortable in it and wouldn’t have to go insane finding the right shapewear like I was worried about. I have 34DDs and I could just wear a bra and not worry about anything complicated. I’m wearing a seamless bra in these photos and I hate the bra but this encourages me that I could wear a different one and not worry too much about lines.

- I love the liquid satin look, I feel very 1930s, like I’m getting married in a Poirot episode

- I love that it’s chic and feels right for a courthouse wedding + dinner with our 6 guests at a fancy restaurant (once they remove the train at the bottom - I do NOT wanna be dragging fabric on the sidewalk of my city)

- I love how it looks when my hair is down and I have big statement earrings on. I JUST had a haircut and my hair will be longer on my wedding day.

If I summarize what I am nervous about:

- I still have some body dysmorphia from losing 40+ pounds last year. Do I look really hippy in some of these? I usually wear dresses with a tighter waist (which is why I asked her to take it in an extra inch).

- Do I look stumpy? Part of that might be from the fabric pooling at the ground which wouldn’t be true for mine. Part of it is like, well, I’m 5’2! it is what it is! Plan to wear low heels.

Okay that’s a novel, I’m just nervous about committing! It’d be made to order so no backsies. Is it just nerves? how would you style it? if you love it, pls hype me up.