Sometimes I feel like my boyfriend is only here because of my son.
I’m 22f and my boyfriend is 26. We’ve been together about a year.
When we met, I had just left a very abusive relationship and was 2 months pregnant. We already knew each other through mutual friends for years, but we had never been close. I told him right away I was pregnant because I didn’t want him getting the wrong idea if he wanted something more than friendship.
He didn’t care. We started hanging out as friends, then got closer. He was really sweet to me while I was pregnant, always there for me, talked to my belly, helped me feel safe, and eventually asked me to be his girlfriend right before I gave birth.
Now my son is 8 months old and he’s amazing with him. He helps constantly, plays with him, spends time with him, treats him like his own. He doesn’t spend one on one time with my son, I have certain boundaries and that is one of them, you can never be too careful even I love and trust him with my life.
But lately he’s not very affectionate or attentive with me anymore. We barely spend time together as a couple and when we’re all together, he focuses way more on my son than me. I miss how he used to be with me in the beginning.
I keep overthinking and wondering if he’s actually with me because he loves me, or if he mostly wanted to be a dad and I just happened to come with my son. Has anyone else been through something like this? Does it sound like he’s lost feelings for me, or could this just be him getting comfortable and focusing on the baby?