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Sorry to double post!! I searched the subreddit and read the wiki post on punishment and it was helpful but most of those things suggested are for outside the scene, especially with things like chores and such.

Me and my partner don’t really enjoy pain, inflicting or receiving, but obviously we need some sort of punishment. When pleasure is the goal a fun punishment doesn’t really work.

I know these things are often specific so I’m asking because we want to introduce a title to be called, so obviously not using the agreed upon title needs to be punishable but ideally not something that completely interrupts the scene (especially as the title is quite new so i’m not expecting them to be used to it yet)

Sorry for the stupid question. I’m autistic and would really appreciate specific answers because this is something that always confuses me. Due to past experiences I have trouble distinguishing certain feelings (like fear and anticipation, for example) which is why I think bdsm appeals to me because it’s got a very clear set of rules and way out. The thing I can not understand is the difference between dissociation and subspace?

I have read experiences to try and answer this myself and lots of people say it’s like floating or detaching, but that sounds a lot like dissociation. Other people describe it as a sort of runner’s high, but from experience I wouldn’t feel detached from my body or floating after exercise?

I know I can enjoy sex without experiencing subspace, I know that I am already happy with what I do. I like feeling safe above all else. But I would like to experiment and learn so I’d appreciate answers that aren’t like metaphors please, or are just very literal definitions? Also if there is anywhere to read up I’d appreciate that too