are there people who genuinely "know" that they are attractive?
are there people who genuinely know that they are attractive?
i might be being naive & simplistic here but i really would love to get insight on this.
i have been told for most of my life that i am attractive in different ways. i have always assumed this was men trying to woo me. which is fine. it's flattering. i never thought it was because i was "more" attractive than other people, whatever that means. i just thought that people flirt and think each other are hot and they express it, as a rule.
recently i was talking to some friends about it and they said no, that's not actually the case with a lot of people, not everyone is always being told they are attractive in these particular ways and to this extent. they were trying to convince me that i was actually conventionally attractive and just had no clue. they pointed out also that the men i tend to date are exceptionally attractive as well.
okay, so it's not that i care a lot. i'm not a teenager anymore. i'm well into adulthood. i just find it fascinating. and maybe i am actually oblivious to what i look like. or maybe my friends were just being nice, and i'm actually a hideous monster. either way, beauty norms and attraction are complicated.
i guess what i want to know is:
are there people who have a sense of "knowing" that they are attractive/hot/beautiful/whatever? what does this mean, what does it feel like? how do you "know"? or are we all just kind of a confused oblivious mess about this, like i am, and the extent to which we think we are hot or not has nothing to do with the external reality, and more to do with our inner world?
thanks for dealing with my vague question! curious to hear yalls thoughts.