California birthday trip: Carmel and San Francisco, or Carmel and San Diego?
My husband and I are planning a birthday trip for early November (our birthdays are a week apart). I did the drive up the coast from LA to San Francisco back in 2019 and fell in love with Carmel by the Sea when we stopped for lunch, so that’s “my” pick for a few days of our stay.
My husband has never been to California and really wants to see San Diego, but said he could also be convinced to do San Francisco instead. Obviously I would love to be able to do all 3 but realistically, I don’t think we’ll be able to swing it financially or time-wise.
What would you do? Stay in San Diego for 2 nights, drive up the coast (ideally stay somewhere for a night about half way so we aren’t rushed and can enjoy the scenery), then do 2 nights in Carmel
OR
Stay 2-3 nights in Carmel, and 2-3 nights in San Francisco?
San Francisco makes so much more sense logistically, but also don’t want to try to persuade him to go somewhere else on what’s supposed to be *our* trip if he really wants to do San Diego.
Pros and cons of each option?