u/strawberryish67

I think I’ve already hit rock bottom. After living with my in-laws for a while, my husband and I ended up paying 70% of my SIL and MIL’s mortgage because my MIL begged us to move back in since they could no longer afford the mortgage payments.

I think my husband and I really need to move out again. It’s exhausting when we’re the ones constantly showing up to work while my SIL seems to just stay at home all the time and depend on others. And my MIL enables her too. Whenever my husband asks why my SIL still doesn’t have a job, my MIL always says, “I don’t know” or “Ask her, not me.” It’s tiring.

I honestly don’t know why I agreed, as a wife, to move back here when they didn’t even treat me well before, back when my husband and I were still just boyfriend and girlfriend. I guess I’m just too kind sometimes. I often regret leaving the peace we had before, even if we were only renting our own place.

I just felt so bad for my MIL because she’s retired now, and she would always tell us that she couldn’t rely on my SIL because she’s lazy and irresponsible with money. So we ended up carrying the burden of their mortgage, even though it was really their problem from the very beginning.

It’s honestly hard being too kind. Thankfully, I know how to set boundaries. I’m the type of person who doesn’t overshare with them or constantly hang out with them. Most of the time, I just spend time with my husband. I got used to it being just the two of us because we were independent for three years while living on our own.