u/soundaddicttt

I've been dating this guy for about 3 months, I really like him and he feels the same, it's been the best relationship I've ever had.

His birthday is in a week, and I have no idea what to do for him. We're both broke as hell, our town is tiny with nothing to do, and he's said he doesn't like his birthday made into a big deal anyway.

He always wears the same old tattered ball cap and I want to get him a new one, because he's mentioned wanting one, but he's really into dirt bikes and pro racing and I don't know enough about that to get him one he'd like :(

He's really good at mechanics, but his grandpa's shop has every tool and part you could ever imagine so that's a no go.

I'm lost, please help. What do I get him/do? T_T

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 months, it's been the easiest, most toxic-free relationship I've ever had.

He does his very best to make me finish in bed, and he does everything right. He takes my advice and requests well and he's not weird/squeamish about anything to do with my body or its functions.

HOWEVER-

I have a problem finishing with a partner. I did it for the first time with him the first time we had sex.

Often, even when he does everything right, I just can't finish. It gets to the peak and then kinda just... Flops. I've had this issue in every past relationship, even though I can do it myself just fine (but only if I'm alone)

I have been taken advantage of and lectured or shamed during sex (in the past) multiple times. I think that has something to do with it.

But how do I communicate to him that it's normal for me sometimes not to finish and there's nothing wrong with him? My past boyfriends would think I was just trying to make them feel better and assume if they just keep trying, it'll happen. (Even though I'm satisfied without it) He kinda did the same thing, but when I told him I was okay to stop he stopped. It just gets awkward when they keep trying and it won't happen.

TLDR: How can I get my boyfriend to believe that even if I don't finish it's not his fault and I'm happy anyway?