He insisted on seeing me again, disappeared for 17 hours claiming he was “sleeping”. What do I do, call him out or walk away silently?
I met a guy at a party and we got along well. We kissed, but I chose to stop things from going further. We didn’t speak for a while, then recently reconnected and went out again. It was genuinely nice, and he was the one who insisted on continuing the evening and invited me to dinner. He said he would quickly go home to shower and come back to pick me up, but then disappeared completely and only replied 17 hours later claiming he had been “sleeping,” which honestly felt disrespectful, especially since I never asked him to make those plans in the first place.
This is not the first time something similar has happened to me after a good date where the man initiates plans and then disappears or fails to follow through, but comes back days, weeks, or even months later after it’s too late.
What do I do from a long-term perspective, what is the better approach when someone behaves disrespectfully like this: calmly calling out the behaviour to create accountability, or simply disengaging silently and moving on? I sometimes feel people repeat this behaviour because no one tells them directly that it is not acceptable.