How are we dealing with manipulative suicide threats?
Rule 1:
Always take it seriously and report it. Call police, crisis, etc.
I'm doing well sticking to rule 1.
Buuuut.... what do we do if this doesn't work? If the threat of suicide isn't imminent or if the BPD can act normal when crisis teams arrive, then nothing happens.
This is where I am stuck. Sample situation from this week:
Mom texts: I just attempted suicide but I failed. Guess I'm waiting for the police before I slit my neck.
I proceed to call police/crisis etc. They talk to her on the phone. She says she's fine to them so they don't do anything.
Mom texts: Why didn't you text me rather than calling the police?
This is all manipulation. I know it.
But. Now what? Now do I talk to her as though this didn't happen? Do I try to explain how I'm hurt and frustrated?
At this point, I explicitly said that I felt really overwhelmed and hurt about what she did and said I'd be NC for a week. I've done this before after similar incidents just to give myself some space to heal.
I'm considering doing one month NC because I'm so tired.
But, I'm not looking for NC long term. I'd like to figure out VLC or something? I'm really not sure right now.
Any stories or advice would be great.
tl;dr
How to deal with suicidal manipulation that doesn't result in natural consequences (e.g., hospitalization)?
How to (sorta) move forward from suicidal manipulation without going NC?
**This question at the end sounds ridiculous now that I wrote it out. It's currently what I want to try for but it's feeling less and less realistic.