Mine lets NK’s pee sit in the little portable kid potties all weekend long. They also have one in their basement with crystallized pee in the bottom of it 🥲
And don’t worry I am making an exit plan lol
Hi nannies, looking for advice about how to handle this situation until I can find something else.
I have been nannying for my NF for three months, and have been having a tough time because of a SAHM arrangement. The family is otherwise kind and have been good employers, pay me well, etc.
Here are some examples of things I am struggling with:
- MB will be in the same room as me and NKs for ~75% of the day. NKs will go up to her while she’s on her computer/phone and scream at her, cry for her, etc. MB ignores them (sometimes up to like 15 minutes) but also does not leave the room so kids are increasingly trying to get her attention which ofc frequently puts me in uncomfortable situations
- NF does not nap NK2 (freshly 2) on weekends so nap times and sleep schedules are all out of whack and NKs have no sense of routine or consistency. Everything I’ve been trying has been brushed aside and not prioritized by MB.
- MB will give me certain rules for the kids— ex: no snacks after a certain time. I will adhere to these ofc but when the kids go and ask her for snacks like two hours after the specified time, she says yes. This is making NKs really resentful of me
-NKs have been very openly disrespectful to me in front of MB and I address it with the kids but she never has. Ex: NK6 tells me she hates me in front of MB, MB doesn’t respond
- MB has some struggles with time management. ex: I’m supposed to take NKs to activity but MB doesn’t have the car back in time for me to leave. Or, MB lets me know 5 min before we need to leave that NKs have an appointment that day that severely disrupts schedule.
I was hired on as a nanny but I feel like the role is more of a mother’s helper situation. If I knew it would be this kind of position, I wouldn’t have taken the job. I am also a pretty anxious person who really thrives on consistency and routine (so usually nannying has been great for me!) but I’ve been struggling a lot with my mental health because of this situation.
Looking for advice from any nannies who have been in this position before. Any short term coping strategies or things that helped you make it through? Ty!