My husband has been caring for me and when I thanked him, he said...
"You're welcome, but everything I have done is just basic shit anyone should do for their partner."
I had a back surgery yesterday. 6 days before surgery I had an episode so bad, I couldn't stand, sit, or walk without support.When I could stand, I could not bend or twist at all. This man helped me move, bathed me, clothed me, fed me delicious home cooked meals, took care of the house and dogs, and managed my meds after an ER visit with no push from me. Post surgery, he keeps the house operating seamlessly, makes sure my meds are taken on time, I am comfortable, fed and entertained...and he does it all while playing video games in his down time.
Over the last decade I have had 5 surgeries, a couple that left me heavily reliant on another person. My very first surgery we had been dating for 6 months and for two weeks, I was unable to bear weight on one leg or drive. The man helped take care of my dogs, cooked delicious meals, cleaned, prepped my meds, got me to appointments, and helped me go to the bathroom, shower and dress.
And every time I have thanked him, he reminds me that this is what a partner does and that he loves me.
Ladies, don't settle for less. I was married before to someone else and stuck around for years hoping he would finally choose to be my partner instead of waiting around for me to tell him what to do. Leaving was scary, but it was the best thing I ever did. We have been married for almost a decade and he has always been there when I was sick, injured, or recovering. The video games aren't the problem. A lack of knowledge isn't the problem. They didn't "forget" and they shouldn't need a list when it comes to basic partner decency.