I had two exes who always claimed I gave them blue balls and that they hurt whenever I wouldn't want to go all the way. Other guys have told me that's not real and it's just a way to get the girl to sleep with them. What is even true at this point lmao
I literally feel when something is going to happen before it happens. One time I was asleep and woke up at 2 am out of nowhere (this rarely happens to me) with my heart racing. To get my mind off it, I went on my phone and not even kidding a minute after I was on my phone scrolling on Instagram or whatever, an abusive ex boyfriend who's made a new number to text me (weird I know) texted me a long apology after a year of not talking.
This happens to me with minor things too. I'll think of a song I haven't listened to in forever and it'll play at a store. I had another boyfriend who had broken up with me (years after that first scenario with a diff guy lol) and I randomly had the urge to check my phone and he had texted me! Sometimes I'll randomly think of my grandma too who I rarely speak to and she'll call me that same day. It's so weird I always freak myself out
I have to preface this by saying I definitely was not perfect and I definitely played a part in most of our arguments. However, there was fault on both ends even though I was made to feel like it was solely my fault (sometimes it was, sometimes it wasn't). I blamed myself a lot for things that happened and was made to feel that I was a horrible person. He broke up with me last week for being way too anxiously attached. I begged and begged and begged but he basically said "no, we're done." He had broken up with me before saying he can't be in a relationship rn etc etc. This time it felt pretty final. As much as I didn't want it to be and after he went no contact, it kind of made me realize how exhausted I was. I was constantly on edge to not upset him as well, always checking my phone to make sure he didn't break up with me again, couldn't say anything without him getting upset... I was exhausted, stressed, and miserable. As much as I care for him and as much as I wish we could still talk and be friends, the only thing that allowed me to realize that it was not JUST my fault and that I was miserable was complete space.
We were together for almost three years. Though the relationship was hard due to both sides, I am mainly the one at fault. I got anxious, attached and started fights over small things. Originally he said he wanted to be friends but then said that he needed space for a while. I asked him if he would talk to me again or if he's trying to phase me out slowly, and he said that he would talk to me but that he just needs space. I was going through a difficult family situation that same weekend coincidentally so two days after him asking for space, I tried to reach out but was shut down.
I haven't contacted him in a week. We broke up two weeks ago. This is really starting to wear on me. He has broken up with me before and has asked for space and usually texts me after a few days. The longest he went was for a month, but that was due to special circumstances. I'm not interested in even getting back into a relationship anymore since he clearly does not want to, but I wish we didn't have to go no contact completely because I feel like he is my best friend regardless of the romantic stuff.
For anyone who's been in a similar situation, how long until they contact you again, if they do?
My boyfriend broke up with me and initially said he wanted to stay in contact, but a week into staying in contact, he decided it was better to take space for a while. I begged, pleaded, found any reason to text them, and he still said "no, I want space." When he said that I still begged him to not ghost me, which I am feeling SO embarrassed about. I spent days... DAYS...... begging him to not leave me as a partner or as a friend, just to be told "I'll talk to you eventually just not now." I gave up and haven't texted him in days, but I'm feeling super embarrassed over the fact that he probably thinks I'm waiting for him and sulking. I should've just given him space from the beginning, because now I walked away from the situation completely emotionally drained, rejected, and embarrassed. I should've just had the self respect to let him leave if he didn't want to stay in the first place. I want to crawl in a hole rn
If you're thinking about begging your ex to stay, DO NOT. The pain of the breakup is nothing in comparison to the embarrassment you will feel for the rest of your life.
My ex and I broke up a week ago due to me being overwhelming and him being in law school. I do think that I have been very clingy and out of line lately, but mainly because even during minor discussions, he would break up with me or threaten to and arguments would get really heated suddenly even when it was not necessary. We dated for a year, broke up for a year but still talked daily, and started dating again for about the past 6 months before this happened. I feel guilty because most of our relationship issues were caused by my anxiety and my alcoholism during the first year we dated. He said he will talk to me again but that he needs space, and it's really difficult for me not to especially when I have talked to him daily for so long. I don't really have many friends, I don't even leave my house all that often unless its to go to the store. I'm completely heartbroken and devastated and it's taking everything in me to not text him (I have slipped a few times in the past week and couldn't help it) but I don't want to block him because he said he will text me eventually to be friends. Any advice on how to calm down and resist the urge for the time being? I love him more than anything, and I really felt that he loved me. My heart feels physically in pain. I can't eat or sleep, I can't take this