u/sam-sill

i am basically 95% bottom, with almost no féminin traits or traditionally "bottom" traits, it's easy enough on the apps to specify your type and prefrences, but in real life (and especially clubs and bars) ... it doesn't feel right to directly ask someone if he's a top when he approaches me ! i feel liki it kills the vibe, and i just generally do not enjoy being approached by bottoms just cuz of my "masculinity". i even thought of wearing shirts that explicitly say "bottom" when i go clubbing 😆😆.\

how do u guys deal with this