is it normal to have so much anxiety?
okay so backstory i downloaded tinder and first night matched with this one guy and we hit it off an he got my number and we continued to connect there. (i deadass haven’t even used tinder since cause we hit it off so nice even though i have plenty of unanswered matches). after connecting a lot we finally decided to meet up he comes to my apartment (brings me flowers) and we talk for hours and are getting really close. we end up hooking up (4 different times) and he stayed over at my place. it was all very intimate, he held me even in his sleep. i cooked him breakfast in the morning and he spent the day with me before i worked and everything. we continue talking and seeing each other for a few weeks. he stays at my house a few times again and i even go stay at his place and he wakes up and leaves for work and he confidently left me in his house alone etc. mind you this man’s social media is really clean and almost too perfect like he follows no women or your typical insta models etc. even claimed he didn’t even have snapchat at all. so i’m thinking green flags all the way around. then out of nowhere he takes hours to respond but isn’t exactly doing anything wrong. the other day it took 3 hours for a text so i send a message asking if i could call him and i continue working. after a little bit i go and check and he’s read the text but didn’t respond which he’s never done before so i go look at his instagram and im blocked. i obviously freak out and go to call him and a WOMAN answers the phone. basically the conversation goes like this
her: hello??
me: umm wtf hello ??? who tf is this ??
her: you called my phone who is this
me: no i called the man’s phone who i’ve been sleeping with and seeing for weeks now
her: who do you think you’re calling
me: (his name) obviously who else ?? wtf is going on??
then it goes silent for 10 seconds and hangs up. i have yet to hear from this man , my one text i sent after that was blue but never read. i tried calling the next morning to get some claritrty and it went straight to voicemail like he blocked me. (blocked me on instagram and tiktok too like?)
and like this has NEVER happened to me before nothing of the sort even and i’ve been having debilitating anxiety since it’s happened like extreme panic attacks and i’m not even sure why , it’s not like i was in love with the man, although i liked him a lot. & my ex deadass cheated on me constantly so it’s not like it was cause of the other girl. i think im more confused than anything, i just want some sort of answer or explanation as to why he did this
more background i told this man id be fine just hooking up nothing emotional and he’s the one who said “a hook up isn’t enough for me” and that he “already deleted tinder” because of me , like ??? what was the point in that ???? did i do something wrong ?? or is he just super good at being manipulative??