u/rosasymariposas

2 months PP and still nursing my toddler 3-4 times a day. Mostly I try to only nurse her after the baby is totally full/done, or I’ll nurse her on the last side he was on where I’m basically empty. She got used to no/low milk during pregnancy so she’s generally happy to get just a little and mostly wants the comfort.

However, a few times now I’ll try to get the baby satisfied before the toddler’s daytime nursing session, and then he is hungry again soon after and gets very frustrated that I don’t have more milk. Today it was a huge meltdown… but I’m not certain it was about milk or more that he was tired. But he did take a pumped bottle after he finally settled down and then passed out— so I think he was hungry and not getting what he needed from me.

I can’t tell if this has anything to do with my toddler nursing or if my milk is just settling in and I’m not producing enough for them both. There could also be a hydration factor.

I’m wanting to gradually wean my toddler anyway, but I’ve been waiting until the fourth trimester is over to not stack on too much adjustment at once.

I’m thinking I maybe need to cut out these daytime nursing sessions for her but that’s a tough one because she still wants nursing to go down for a nap…

Has anyone been through something like this?

This was my third Mother’s Day. I always have low expectations because my husband is NOT a holiday/birthday guy. But I still always hope for a little something (even just words of affirmation would go a long way, I don’t need gifts). To be fair, we are in the thick of it with a 2 year old and a newborn, so the fact that yesterday actually sucked and I had a big meltdown just is what it is.

But I’m wondering for the future… what should I actually be expecting or asking for? For those of you who actually enjoy Mother’s Day, what do you do? What does your partner do? If I need to really spell it out for my husband, what kinds of things should I tell him about how to go about it? Have any husbands who failed in the early years been able to get it together as the years go on?

I’m tempted to just ban Mother’s Day in our home so I don’t keep being disappointed but maybe I need another approach.