u/remorsefulguy

Hi guys,

The fact that I’m 30 and have been with my partner for coming on 3 years yet feel like the thought of kids in the next 5 years has not grown on me at all yet has me concerned and feeling guilty.

Our household income is about 600k, majority of that being me but she’s a hard worker and makes a good income too. I can’t get past the fact that kids seem like an insane sacrifice of freedoms I enjoy (travel, socializing, exercising etc.) it’s easy to say that if you want to you can make those things still happen but frankly career wise to pull 500k (I’m a doctor) I work a decent amount and just wanna come home to no stress or more work. Let alone feel guilty because I don’t see the kids enough with work. I also have just generally found kids kinda irritating but who knows how I’d feel about my own kids.

I feel the need to make up my mind about this because my partner is 29 and I don’t want to waste her time more if I’m not coming around to the idea. She’s never pressured me about it but it’s implicitly understood that at some point we’d wanna have kids if/when we get married and stuff.

To the guys out there, did you change your mind about this before you had kids, did having them change your mind or do you regret not listening to your gut instinct when you felt like maybe they weren’t for you??

I also wonder if I just need more time and I’d come around closer to 40 when I’ve lived life on my terms a bit more fully. Obviously I’m not dating someone young enough to be on that same timeline but love her dearly.

Furthermore even with a good income I just feel like in this day and age a child feels unaffordable.

Would love to hear from some other guys who may have gone through similar thoughts.

Hi everyone,

First time visit to Yosemite and I’m very excited to hike and take photographs :)

I’m hoping to drive in from SF around 11 am June 8th (Monday) and am hoping to spend 4 nights in Yosemite and 2-3 nights around Sequoia. Unfortunately planning a bit last minute here and only managed to secure 4 nights (all weekdays) at Wawona Campground for now, I’d love to have some time in the actual valley campgrounds and am monitoring like a hawk for any openings. Would love a bit of advice and have some questions.

1. Impossible to predict but how early do you think I should be leaving Wawona to snag a parking spot in the valley? Staying there Monday to Friday basically.

2. Thoughts on a plan for how to tackle things from Wawona (sites that are best seen on that side of the park vs. The core sites in the valley?)

3. If spots open up in the valley even if it means splitting our time in Wawona on both ends would you suggest that? Or would you stick to one camp for the 4 nights (Wawona) and just drive into the valley?

Thanks again, really appreciate your advice!

Hi everyone,

I'm in the market for a car over the coming year. I'm able to pay outright cash for it and would rather do this than finance. I'm open to lightly used vs. new and am thinking either a fully loaded plug in hybrid Toyota (or Lexus) vs. Volvo vs. BMW (specifically the iX which is all electric) or a plug in hybrid Porsche. The alternative is toughing it out for a few more years till (maybe?) we get solid state batteries and better EV only range?

I am wondering what the stealerships are doing these days. Are they still essentially forcing you to finance or completely jacking up the price if you say you'll only do cash? Any strategies or recent experiences to navigate savings when you want to do cash only and avoid financing?

Appreciate your advice and also am hopeful this doesn't trigger the usual anger on reddit that accompanies most discussions here regarding housing or expensive items so please don't take this the wrong way. I am only trying to get some insight into what to expect from people who may know more. I drive a shit box right now and will probably continue to drive it if the outlook is horrendous with regards to buying a car and not getting ripped off, I also recognize that buying a car is generally a bad financial decision but have been driving a very average car for over a decade and anticipate that it doesn't have much time left.

Thank you all in advance!