Urgent situation in South Georgia
My mother (74) and sister (57) live together in South Georgia and both suffer from mental illness (adhd, depression, anxiety, bipolar). My sister had a double stroke about 2 weeks ago and has been hospitalized since. She was just moved to rehab and is expected to be discharged in 2 - 3 weeks.
My mother is not well enough mentally to take care of herself, much less my sister. Their home is very unsafe and I am honestly surprised it has not already been condemned. It is my belief (as well as my mother’s brother (78) that we need to contact APS and loop in my sister’s medically assigned social worker. I am awaiting the SW to call me back.
My relationship with both of them is very complicated and I cannot offer my home to them for mine and my own family’s mental well-being. I have begun researching what options there are for long term care for them both, and because they are on SSI/Medicaid and SSDI/Medicare with no other income it is not looking great.
On top of this, they have 35 cats in the house. I am working on getting rescue groups involved, but this is where my mother is stuck. She has said she would rather suffer the consequences than sending the cats “to certain death”. I do not want that either, and am doing my best to find the right operation.
My plea goes out to all of you, whether you are struggling or have dealt with helping loved ones in a similar situation. It is life or death for them and I really need my mom to commit to this. How can I help her without her calling everything off (again)? Is there an approach or type of plan that has worked best?