u/realistic_aside777

Have you seen "Graves of the Fireflies"? What did you think of it?

Have you seen "Graves of the Fireflies"? What did you think of it?

I finally watched Grave of the Fireflies and honestly I really disliked it. I had to pause it so many times because I was getting genuinely nauseous watching it. Searched some comments online even the chinese onces, where I found lots of people say shit like *this movie is “apolitical” or “just anti-war”* but I don’t buy that at all. No war movie is apolitical. NO ART IS EVER APOLITICAL. Who's persepctive is centered? whose erased? who gains control and who loses it? ...If you make a movie about WWII and ONLY focus on Japanese suffering while completely leaving out what Imperial Japan did across Asia, that is already a political choice.

Like yes obviously Japanese civilians suffered. Nobody is denying that. Firebombings, starvation, the atomic bombs, all horrible. But Japan was not just some random innocent country that got dragged into tragedy for no reason. Imperial Japan committed horrific atrocities across Asia like Nanjing Masssacre, unit 731 human experimentation, comfort women, occupation, biological experiments, all of it. Millions of people died.

So when a movie acts like the war was just something that “happened” to Japan, it honestly leaves a bad taste in my mouth. At times it felt less “anti-war” and more “war is sad because Japan lost.”

And maybe I’m more sensitive to this because my family has generational trauma tied to Japanese war crimes. Even though I didn’t live through it myself, that memory doesn’t just disappear. So sitting through a movie where the aggressor nation gets framed almost entirely as the victim while the people they brutalized are basically nonexistent was really hard for me emotionally.

What frustrates me is that people act like criticizing this movie means you lack empathy or something. That’s not the issue. Of course those kids are tragic. Of course civilians suffering is tragic. But I don’t think empathy should come at the cost of historical honesty.

And honestly comparing Japan to Germany makes this even harder for me to ignore. German WWII films like Downfall or The Tin Drum at least feel more willing to confront guilt, complicity, and the role ordinary people played in fascism. Japan definitely has anti-war and self-critical works too, but they feel way less mainstream compared to all the “Japan as victim” narratives.

Idk. Maybe I’m being unfair. Maybe the movie was never trying to talk about any of this. But that’s kind of my point too. If you tell a WWII story about Japan while completely avoiding the context of what Japan was doing to the rest of Asia, that absence becomes part of the message whether intentional or not.

u/realistic_aside777 — 4 days ago

Advice needed - can't help but feel scared of being in lucid dreams

Just started learning about LD recently, I'm so intrigued and excited about it but at the same time, I worry that I would see really traumatic things and it will feel too real. I know I shouldn't start with already expecting bad things will happen, but I can't help myself. I have SA trauma, though I'm already working with a therapist. I really want to develop a good relationship with dreaming and stop expecting bad things will happen.

Then last night it actually happened -- I woke up into a lucid dream, but for a very brief amount of time. I remember me realising I was actually dreaming, I was instantly terrified, I immediately thought to myself loudly, 'I DON'T want to lucid dream!" and then I was back to my bed, then I woke up for real. Even after waking up I was scared, every corner of my house felt unsafe, I was afraid to look into the mirror, I found myself doubting which reality I'm in: "what if i'm still dreaming?".

So. I don't know what to do. Do I stop trying to lucid dream all together?

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u/realistic_aside777 — 8 days ago

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I have no idea what's the brand for this bra, but it is in Japanese Sizing 65H, not moulded/soft cup, wired.

The bra feels kinda comfy but after years and years of wearing very uncomfortable bras, I feel like I don't really know when a bra actually feels good or its just slightly better. I have trouble figuring out how long the strap should be, I feel like the side of the sides of the bra is cutting into the skin near my armpit, and it feels like the bra is squishing/flattening my boobs? I don't really like the shape it's given me for sure.

Any advice so appreciated!! x

u/realistic_aside777 — 19 days ago