I’d like to ask for some advice. I had a guy best friend, and after a drunken night together, we ended up kissing. It seemed obvious that he had liked me for a while. But the next day, he told me that we should just stay friends. However, I think I’m in love with him.
Do you think there’s still a chance that we could end up together?
So, I’d like to ask for some help—is there any hope for this?
I was dating a guy who is the captain of a water polo team. 🤽♂️A few weeks into our relationship, one of his teammates (who is also in my circle of friends) messaged me, asking if I could help him get together with one of my girlfriends. I said okay. From that point on, we started talking a lot. We had long phone calls📞, he took me to the movies and paid for everything. Once, during a get-together, he even took my keys on purpose. He was always looking for me in the hallways and kept flirting with me, playfully hitting or nudging me. He even put his friend’s birthday into my calendar. I’ve been to his house once because I got lost in the neighborhood and went up to charge my phone. I had a blast with him, but I only thought of him as a friend and didn't notice the signs, even though everyone else told me. It was clear he didn't like my boyfriend.
Then, shortly after, I broke up with my boyfriend. The guy pulled back a bit from my life too. But barely two weeks after the breakup, at a party, he was a bit tipsy and asked me twice to kiss him. He told me how good I smelled, showered me with compliments, and said he’d never talked to anyone as well as he does with me. He even gave me his hoodie. He said he knows that part of the reason I broke up with my boyfriend was because of him. Later, we went back into the house, talked some more, and ended up sleeping together. In the morning, he even left with my hair tie on his wrist.
I was a bit confused, but that evening he called me and said: 'Let’s just be friends because I don’t want to ruin the friend group. It doesn’t feel right. I don’t want a girlfriend from this circle. Don’t call me anymore and let’s not go anywhere just the two of us.' But he added that I could still send him photos and tell him whenever something happens to me.
I didn't understand what was going on. The next day, Sunday, we didn't text at all. Then on Monday, I sent him a Reel, and he replied INSTANTLY. That night, I invited him to a group hangout; he called me and was flirting again. Sometimes I send him Reels, and he always replies immediately, often in a flirty way. It turned out later that he never actually liked my girlfriend—it was just an excuse to start talking to me. Unfortunately, I feel like I've fallen in love with him now💔