AIO - bf called neurodiverse people retarded but thinks he has a free pass cause he is neurodiverse as well
Title basically sums it up. He was talking about his parents and said they're both retarded because they are probably autistic. I'm not sure if I'm overreacting because I personally find it offensive to refer to people with that term, but he thinks I'm being too sensitive around it and that I should know he's not meaning it as a slur or in a mean way. He claims that the ASD and ADHD community is reclaiming the term(I am neurodiverse as well) and that he can use it as he wishes, and that he was also referring to himself as retarded, even though he didn't say himself in the moment. I must admit that I have referred to situations as retarded in the past but I am trying to be conscious about being careful with my words.
I tried explaining to him that not everyone has the same views as him and he might want to be careful around using that word as freely as he did, and he got defensive saying that's just how he is and I should know that wasn't his intention and that he said it sarcastically. He then went on about how Black people refer to each other with the N word and said it's the same as him calling his parents retarded or anyone else to has autism. In my eyes it's a way for him to subtly bully and put down people around him while passing it off as sarcasm.
AIO?