Friend or acquaintance with agorophobia claims they "don't like my driving"
throwaway account because I do not know if they are on reddit.
Friend I have known for about 1 or two months now tells me everytime they see a car turning out of a parking lot or speeding up or slowing down or in my blindspot. they do this about every 30 seconds to every 3 minutes every time they get it my car.
they mentioned they have agorophobia but before this and not in response to it.
I am a rideshre driver and have completed probably over 5000 rides on 2 platforms.
no one has ever been injured riding with me. I have been in 3 accidents that aren't my fault. one hit and run, someone pulling out of a parking spot not looking and hitting me, and some kid rear ending me very hard.
I do not want to be in another accident.
this behavior stresses me out while I'm driving, distracts me from driving due to its frequency with them remarking on nearly every car they see.
I have told them to stop.
they said "I drive too slow." I do drive slower in the right lane when people are entering in front of me and traffic.
I sent them a screenshot of a Google search telling me the *proper thing* to do is to slow down.
in response they said "I don't like my boundaries and safety being disrespected"
this was the whole point of the discussion. they are distracting me while operating a motor vehicle and telling me how to drive.
I do not have any tickets in the last 5 years save for one which is not for distracted driving but is distracted driving related because I failed to ignore unsafe directions from GPS.
I told them their feelings are valid but if my driving distresses them that they should maybe ride with someone else they trust more. in response they didn't apologize but said "im sorry but your driving scares me, I'll try harder."
my car is my income and i am unwilling to sacrifice my car, my safety or my income over this behavior. I'm not going to continue to give them rides if they don't stop this behavior. and i think this may end the friendship for them. the sad part is I do not want to lose the friendship but I value my safety over a. opinion that I think stems from a mental condition and a. behavior that can literally ruin me financially and health wise.
I do not think they are in therapy. I do not want to suggest they go. they are 35 plus with a partner and are s mature adult with a job. they might have trouble affording it but they do have a city job with benefits I think k and two I incomes where I have only one. so if they need to do that I'm sure they can find a way.
do you all have any advice