Men continuing to be disrespectful. I need to vent.
So a month ago I (PM of project) posted about my male colleague (field inspector) talking to other inspectors calling me slurs like whore, bitch, cunt, etc. I told his supervisor and she basically said “he was saying things out loud that he shouldn’t have. I will be joining all calls from now on and if he trains you have someone else there”. I thought that was a disgusting way to handle it. I also found out he told HR I stick my ass and boobs out? I’m extremely professional at my job and I’ve seen him in person maybe three times on site when I’m in PPE. Typical sexist crap.
Thank god for my supervisor because he told her to fix it or he will. Leadership flew in and asked what I wanted and I said get him off my project immediately and find a replacement. They wanted to fire him but HR pushed back since it’s his first offense…I also learned that the woman I complained to didn’t care that much because it happened to her when she was younger and nobody helped her? Anyway, a new inspector, I’ll call him John was brought on as a replacement and back up.
a month goes by and John knows what happened with the first inspector. I’m on my internal call that I run today and ask John a question regarding submittals . He stays muted so I said “I think you are muted” and he just wasn’t speaking. I said “is he even on this call?” And he unmutes and goes (in a nasty tone) “MAYBE BECAUSE I HAVE NOTHING TO SAY!!!!” And I said “I asked you a direct question it’s a yes or no answer. You can get off this call” and I spoke with his supervisor (inspector one’s supervisor..this woman supervised the first inspector I had an issue with and this one) and said his behavior was totally unprofessional and I’m actually unsure what his purpose is on this project so he doesn’t need to be on them.
Anyway, my client calls and needs an emergency inspection tomorrow. John’s role was to fill in for things like this. I call John and can’t get a hold of him and his supervisor goes “he needs a week notice” at that point I’m like “he’s the back up. That makes no sense” then she says “well he’s just senior support to answer construction questions”. I said “why does he need a weeks notice but my other inspectors have to move their schedules around on a dime? I’m struggling to understand his purpose here” and she didn’t have anything to say. She said she will simmer on it. I also have email communication from her saying that John is EMERGENCY BACK UP.
I am done putting up with it. My other projects are fantastic and staffed well but this on…wow. The blatant disrespect. I guess I’m coming to rant but I feel worn down. I’m constantly pushing back on this behavior and at a certain point I feel like I’m blowing things up but I refuse to put up with it. Other engineers have come forward about these inspectors too and it’s becoming a shit show. I have had men fired at other jobs for this behavior and now I’m becoming the “she gets men in trouble” girl which is gross like I’m trapping them. I’m merely existing. My boss told me I’m professional and respectful and that’s on them.
I don’t know what I’m expecting writing here but I feel like if anyone gets it you guys do and I just need some words of encouragement to keep being strong and doing what’s right.