Any one else Struggles to get along with other moms?
Current stay at home mom and I meet a lot of other moms. At the park and library and just kid events and it's normally super easy to talk to them. However I see this pattern emerge where everyone wants to get along but they don't really. Like everything will be going well until one mom finds out another mom doesn't let her kids eat sugar, then they are still polite but now one mom doesn't like the other. It seems as if one mom meets another mom that does things differently from the other mom causes this unspoken tension.
Or it's like this strange competition where every mom wants to be seen as the super chill, friendly best mom ever. Which I guess isn't wrong. It's just it can come over as controlling, because they seem to accomplish this by defining what is good and bad in their mind. And if you do anything to contradict that you are a problem. Like one mom doesn't pick up her kid when she cries, she just makes sure she is ok and encourage her to keep playing. Absolutely nothing wrong with that. However my kid falls and cries after and I pick them up, the mom would tell me you should encourage them to self soothe it's not good to keep coddling them etc. It's taken as an attack somehow nevermind our kids are at different development stages. So I feel hopeless at ever really making genuine mom friends. I feel like I would need to find someone who is exactly the same as me, because if we have any differences someone will end up feeling judged. Anyone else going through this?