u/nyanya707

Hi everyone! It’s my birthday today and Ive been long considering getting myself a switch because im starting to get fomo from people around me having one. Ive been told to get a switch lite if im hesitant because its not as big of an investment than a switch 2 but i dont see the point in getting one unless the switch 2 lite was out because the old lite would be pretty much pointless when the switch 2 exclusive games start coming out, not to mention from my understanding pokopia isnt available for a lite and ive been heavily interested in that one. The only console ive ever owned was a ps4 and Im completely new to nintendo. Im also heavily a pc gamer but switch seems to have more of those cozy games i could also just enjoy in bed and I love the idea of that.
I was thinking of getting it as a birthday present for myself but at the same time it is a massive investment to come out of my pocket just for the console alone & then the games on top of that too.
Im mostly interested in animal crossing, pokopia and tomodachi life and i guess im thinking if its worth it to get a switch for these 3 games alone.

My now fiancé (m24) proposed to me (f24) about a week ago on our one year anniversary and I obviously accepted, being completely overjoyed about it all since I knew very well literally a month into dating that I wanted to marry this man. We met in 2024 through Overwatch and at the time people’s reactions and attitudes were sceptical because its long distance but eventually everyone in my friend group & family started to love him upon meeting him & then when we got engaged, my god my family was jumping through the roof. They’re so happy for me and already asking about the wedding and when he’s planning to move to me and its all suddenly SO overwhelming. Dont get me wrong I am so happy, this man healed parts of me he didn’t even break and understands me so well especially since I have adhd & really bad anxiety and sometimes the world doesn’t work the same way for me as it does for others. He is patient and caring and above all else respects me and all my boundaries during different times. I would give him the world and more if i could & he has proven to be the one person who will always ALWAYS have my back the same way i have his with his constant communication, reassurance and willingness to learn how to walk this path together as a team.
Now that we’re engaged, I suddenly feel so overwhelmed. He had planned this out months ago and he had time to process this and literally had 0 fears of me rejecting him so he has been just normal through all this whereas I now carry a ring with a heavy purpose. I suddenly have a whole new family and I know they love me and I love all of them, his friends all approved of me and it seems great but though physically nothing changed other than swapping a promise ring to an engagement ring, it suddenly feels heavy on my chest. We’re not due to get married until earliest next spring and itll be a small simple courthouse wedding with only the closest people being there & a celebration at home afterwards with everyone important to me & him. Im not scared, not hesitant or having second thoughts. Im just overwhelmed. Its so incredibly overwhelming because all of a sudden im no longer a girlfriend. Im a fiancée, someones future wife, a future mother to kids we plan on having and it feels so REAL. it’s genuinely kind of terrifying in a way. Ive never gotten this far in a relationship, truthfully ive never even had a relationship last more than like 8 months max. This is all so incredibly new and since he doesn’t understand how i feel, he also doesn’t know how to make me feel less overwhelmed about all of this, because to him it all feels just like before we got engaged, just with an upgraded ring. he’s just chilling while im losing it thinking about all of this.

Will this overwhelming feeling ever go away? Is it just jitters from a new stage in my life? I know its a big commitment and Ive spent my entire life being frightened of commitment because Ive gotten hurt so many times and the fear of being hurt again is always gonna be present in a way. But he has shown me time and time again that he’ll always be a constant in my life, he feels safe and he feels more like home than actual home feels sometimes. I do fear that my own anxieties are making it worse in my head, like im scared of settling down and my brain isn’t allowing me to feel safe and im constantly in a fight or flight mode despite actually physically knowing everything is okay and that I have possibly made the best decision in my life and Im excited to start my life with him and excited for him to move here in a couple years.

Hi!

Ive received a really beautiful kitten yesterday after the loss of my previous one. She came as a new companion for my other boy but she came from a really strange person. She was in good condition and the previous owner was agitated, refused any pictures of her and almost refused to give the cat to me when she saw my grandmothers phone. I had to smooth things over to get her finally.

Shes a 7 month old maine coon although i dont believe shes a purebred (not that i care i just want her to be healthy and happy)

Previous owner claimed shes chipped and has been last vaccinated 4 months ago, however seeing as this lady was really odd, i dont really believe anything she said. She provided no vaccination cards, no microchip number, nothing.

Only said she hasnt been given latest dose of dewormer but that’s alright my boy is due for a new dose too so i can do it at the same time.

I brought her home yesterday and she has been quarantined to my living room till further notice. Living room door has a window though so both cats can see eachother.

Shes incredibly sweet and lets me really slowly near her and hold her but shes absolutely frightened. She hasnt eaten since she got here nor used the litter box. Shes got this weird smell to her as well which im assuming may be bc of previous living conditions. I go and check on her multiple times a day and just sort of sit there with her without startling her to give her room to come to me and she did today! She let me pet her and purred at me but freaked out the second i got ready to stand up.

I have called the vets office and shes got an appointment for tomorrow. Im letting her get checked out and seeing if she really does have a chip and vaccinations and seeing just how her general health is so that i can eventually start introducing her to my other cat.

Its just been a really long time since i last had a kitten and its also completely new to me to have a kitten this frightened since both of my cats were absolute cuddle bugs and the other one still is.

Im wondering if theres anything else i could do to make her feel safe and secure and if im missing something i should proceed to do still to make sure shes healthy.

The previous owner was genuinely really freaky and im not surprised if the kitten came from a bad environment considering her behaviour.

Any tips are welcome ! <3