My mom is emotionally draining:')
I’m a 22F from India, preparing for important exams, and I feel emotionally exhausted by repeated arguments with my mom.
Today around 4 PM, my younger sister came home from school, had lunch, and said she wanted to go to a mall just 1–2 km away to relax a little because she’s also buried in studies and rarely gets free time. My mom said no because it’s summer afternoon and unsafe, which I understand. But when we tried explaining that my sister only had time today, the conversation escalated badly.
I casually said something like, “If we can’t even go somewhere this close, when will we ever go on a family outing?” That triggered a 30–40 minute argument. My mom said we’re completely disrespectful, out of control, ungrateful, and that when our parents get old, we won’t care for them after all their sacrifices.
She just wants me to feel bad and I end up labelling myself as a bad daughter altogether, crying myself to sleep:')
How do I handle conversations like this without getting emotionally drained or making things worse?
How can I save up my energy?