Racist family and POC friends and my grad party
i’m sorry if my wording in the title is weird. also i have ocd/anxiety so i hope this isn’t just me overthinking idk
i (22f) am graduating college on thursday. my parents plan to have a joint grad party for me and my two brothers sometime in june and my mom is telling me to invite my friends but the thing is that people in my family are racist and get drunk use racial slurs (were white), and the people in my family cannot control their drinking. some of them can become aggressive and borderline scary, and i have one aunt that gets drunk and angry every holiday. my dad specifically has an inability to not bring up anything political (he was sending me shit on my birthday after i’ve communicated to him tht i don’t want him to send me any of it), so that’s another thing. i’m financially dependent on them too, so please no suggestions to cut them off.
my friends are majority POC and/or queer. i want my friends there but i don’t want them in an environment that’s going to be potentially dangerous for them, and i don’t know how to explain it to my family if i don’t invite my friends. i don’t even want this grad party if im being honest.
sorry if some of this didn’t make sense, i can clarify things if needed.