What do I do bout my crazy mother?
Okay to give context…. I 20yo F, have lived under my mothers roof my whole life and starting in middle school she started controlling me worse than a helicopter mom. Had apps to shut off my phone, went through my phone everyday, would track me everywhere I go and so on. To this day it’s gotten better to an extent. She tries to still control me like I’m 15 and will say she’ll beat my a** if I go out without her permission and spam called me at 2 am when I fell asleep and my boyfriends house calling me a wh**e and to come home immediately (we are 5 mins away from each other).
Okay now to my question because for years I’ve wanted to move out because I feel like my mother has put a decline on my mental health and don’t get me wrong we have our good days but our bad are bad. Literally told me today bc I stayed over at my boyfriend, 20 yo, who I haven’t seen in a month bc he got a travel job, if I have the same behavior again she would give me a curfew…. At 20 years old.
My boyfriend has known for years that me and my mother’s relationship wasn’t great. And tonight he is stranded at the airport because the weather is not the best and my mother said I wasn’t allowed to leave this house unless I wanna get my a** beat when I get home. He’s now giving me an ultimatum that if I don’t move out of her toxic house and move in with his family so that I could finally work on my mental health by the end of the week he says he will leave me because he believes That I wont ever be able to leave because she manipulates me into feeling bad for her or any other excuse to be stuck under her rule.
Me and him are talking about moving into an RV together so that he can travel for work easier and etc in August so like 3 months. So im asking if I can just wait til then but he is scared that I’ll back out if I dont do it this week. What should I do?
I’ve already messaged my sister and friends to help me move but im terrified of what the results will be if I do decide to do this.
I will return any questions if any are asked do context purposes.