Judgemental in-laws
I (F20) and my partner (M25) are together for 2 years and live together for 1,5 year. We got together when I was starting last year of secondary school. He pays pretty much everything but I am still contributing money for food.
Last month I got fired from a job and since then I am constantly being controlled by my MIL and GRAMIL about my steps I take to find a new one to the point it is annoying and uncomfortable. We visit them once a month and last time we visited I felt like I was at a police interview. Telling me how to find a job, what to do to find it, that I should take anything etc. I am at a point I want to find something stable and that obviously takes some time. It got to a point that they are calling my bf and ask specifically how my interviews went and that they need every detail and what else am I gonna do. BF is supportive and tells them it is annoying they ask all the time and when I get a job he will tell them. They just don’t seem to respect it.
It just feels from their side that my value is based on if i have a job and they don’t consider me as a human being. And thinking if I am lazy etc. because I didn’t find a job in their ideal timeline. They worked one job in their entire life so they have no idea what it is like to find a normal job at this time. It is my life and they don’t live it so I feel like finding a job where I am gonna be 160hrs a month is nobody’s decision but mine.
What do you think? Did you experience something similar? Or how to put boundaries?
I would appreciate advice.